Jesse James has said that he has been left with a “huge hole in his heart” following his wife Sandra Bullock filing for divorce, but James insists that it would be “selfish not to let her go”.

Bullock walked out on James last month after his affair went public.

Several other women also came forward with allegations of affairs with James, prompting the disgraced star to issue a public apology to his wife and check into rehab to deal with his personal issues.

Bullock has now confirmed the marriage is definitely over,she has told People magazine that she has filed legal papers to end the marriage.

The actress also revealed to the People that the couple had adopted a baby boy from New Orleans, Louisiana shortly before news of the scandal broke.

James, who already has three children from previous relationships, has revealed his wife will still continue the adoption on her own, and he won’t be a part of little Louis’ life – and he is devastated to miss out on the chance to raise a baby with Bullock.

He tells People magazine, “My whole life has been full of hard decisions. The decision to let my wife end our marriage, and continue the adoption of Louis on her own, has been the hardest. The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.”

“Sandy is the love of my life, but considering the pain and devastation I have caused her, it would be selfish to not let her go.”

James also blames his marriage breakdown on an “addiction” – fuelling rumours he was treated for sex addiction during his recent stay in rehab.

He adds, “Right now it is time for me to beat this addiction that has taken two of the things I love the most in life.”

“I know in my heart that I can be the best father possible to my four children, and the mate Sandy deserves, and realise that this is an incredible mountain to climb. But I believe that the steps I have taken in the last 30 days are the foundation for making this happen. The lifelong commitment I am making is what being a real husband and father is all about.”